- Life is about reducing and eliminating suffering, pursuing meaning, and feeling peace and joy.
- Lifestyle design is everything - creating an individualized, tested, thoughtful set of habits, relationships, work styles - that uniquely fits and works for your personality and preferences.
- All people are capable of goodness and evil. Whether the light or the dark are summoned depends on how you design your life, how honest you are about what you need, and the courage to follow your own individuality. Authentic, healthy people are happy, good people.
- Money is underrated in how much it can free you from the aspects of life that cause misery: a lack of nutritious food, an insufferable boss, an uninteresting and dying city, backbreaking or meaningless work, insufficient time to exercise, sufficient sleep, and relaxing, rejuvenating leisure.
- Yes, people need friends and a supportive community. To flourish, though, many need a different kind of daily watering: nourishing alone time and quiet for processing and reviving, to relish solitude.
- Men should not marry before age 35. Wise decisions come from a place of abundance, experience, and confidence: 95%+ of men won't experience this until it is earned, through time, perseverance, a personal purpose, discipline, and self-development.
- Comedians speak more truth than colleges.
- Maturity is about growing self-awareness, shedding adaptive personas, saying no more often, and becoming a more loving, wise person.
- Quite often, the most loving thing you can do for your boyfriend or girlfriend is to break up with them.
- Distracting screens and addictive scrolling are the death knell of original thought, accurate self-insight, and personal epiphany. Beware of cheap dopamine.
- The heroes of history - the Enlightenment thinkers, the unknown truth-tellers and tyranny-fighters, the Founding Fathers, the men who won the Second World War - have gifted you the right to live a personalized, free, eclectic life. Earn this. Earn it.
- To understand yourself, look to the hunter-gatherers. We were moulded in tribes, and our nature stems from a need to survive in a world and a context that we no longer inhabit.
- Feeling off? HALT: are you hungry, angry, lonely, or tired? A fifth: time (HALTT). Are you overstimulated - have you give yourself a day or two of quiet, undistracted, undisturbed, delicious solitude?
- The biggest fork in the road for adults: to have, or not to have, children. For those that don't, beware: your relationships with friends who do - even with your best friend - will never be the same.
- Mornings and early afternoons are to be protected as much as possible, at all costs. This is the prime time for clear thinking, careful consideration, good decision-making, future planning, redirecting and improving one's life.
- The pursuit of financial independence - if done for personal liberation and without societal destruction - is not only virtuous but one of life's most worthy goals.
- Women are wired to seek men who are, in relation to themselves: richer, smarter, taller, more socially connected, more ambitious, more capable, more hard-working, more desired, and un-needy. This is the way of nature, a way for the child-producing sex to get her best deal, to ensure protection and survival, to allow the species to go on. Good luck out there, gents.
- Are you doing this to perform for others or to align with your own nature and inner needs?
- Most of life is spent in three rooms: your bedroom, your living room, and your office. Make those three as beautiful, comfortable, and inspiring as you can.
- Success comes not from brilliance at the outset, but from, over time, learning, iterating, and reducing your frequency of failure.
- For life's biggest decisions - where to live, where to work, who to partner with - bide your time and wait for the enduring "Fuck yes!"
- The ultimate form of health is flourishing mental health. The ultimate form of hell is disastrous mental health. Prioritize your life accordingly.
- Like learning a language, it's hard to notice how far you've come. In a day, hardly anything is noticeable. A year, and you can be a wholly new person. Compounding consistency is everything.
- The modern world is an assault on your attention: pings, notifications, posts, putting you in a reactive state. Reclaim your autonomy: turn tech from master to slave. Be ruthlessly proactive.
- Men domesticate and yes, often suppress their emotions. This is often a positive, as it makes them tougher, more capable, and more attractive to women. Part of aging for men, though, should be about revisiting, cultivating, and honoring their inner life, without submitting to helplessness, victimhood, or pity. They need to re-learn how they feel. Life is a balancing act.
- Food is medicine as has a direct affect on your health, especially your mental health. Eat only foods your grandmother would recognize; eat only what is delicious and health-giving. Many mental illnesses are fueled by sugar and inflammation. We've been lied to.
- The best drugs are caffeine and small quantities of psilocybin mushroom. Each illuminate, boost, and seem to healthily bring out the best in human nature. These are medicinal tools, quite like vitamins, and we should be grateful for them.
- The most under-discussed and under-recognized modern tragedy is the holocaust of the animals in factory farming. Our ancestors will understandably judge us. We need scientific breakthroughs and time to eliminate this horrendous stain on our times. Any thoughtful and decent person will admit this.
- Like you plan out your day to eat when you're hungry, plan your day to feast on work and dopamine: to respond to personal texts, to respond to work email in short, focused bursts. Sprint, rest, and reassess.
- Like "break-fast," be mindful of "break-screen": the moment in your day when you, for the first time, gorge on your phone. Less is more.